The Nikkah syndrome: A must read for all (Single, Searching or Married)

NIKKAH SYNDROME
By
Oredola A'ishah
(Mussaite)
Bismillah Rahmani Raheem
Asalam alaykum waramohtullah wa barakatu

NIKKAH:
This is the favourite topic of most brothers and sisters in islam,I'm not an exception , I mean ,who doesn't want companionship , love, attention,tranquility . Who doesn't want to find his /her"other half" , habibi , habibti , sweetie , boo ,azeezatiey or anyhow you'd love to address yourzawj . Okay , most sisters want a tall , good looking ,upright muslim man , sunnatic? Yes! , oh! He musthave neat beards , a good job , his Quran recitation must be excellenté , his voice must captivate me,his smile, shouldn't be less than fantabulous , he should cook for me too , take good care of me , our marriage would be more interesting than the nikkah itself , we would have three to four cute children bla bla bla......

Its good to dream , its healthy and gives you an optimistic mind but Ukhti ! Have you for once thought of being the "Mrs Right" too? Have you Sat down to analyze your flaws , your weakness , do you even want to improve yourself Islamically,spiritually,intellectually, morally , physically ?
Ya Ukhti , have you memorized the whole Quran? Is your solat better than it was yesterday? Your tahajjud? Is your fajr in check? Hmmmm. Do you speak Arabic fluently ? Do you cook well? Are you lazy with house chores ? How about your anger issues? Have you thought of that too? How do you act when you're angry? Do you destroy home appliances,furniture,
glasswares , or do you burn something....anything? Lol.

How about your parents , do you take good care ofthem , spend time with them , respect and honour them , pray for them , assist them ...your mother? Remember that paradise lies at the feet of your mother . Your siblings? Do you teach them what you know in Islam ,spend time with them,show them love ,buy them gifts ? Cook for them? Or does this occur
       Sibling: Oh sis I need help with my homework
       Sis: Subhanallah! I'm busy! Please! I have my own
       homework too! What were u doing when the
        teacher was teaching!
La! La Ukhti La🙅Its wrong .If you can't be a good person ,a good sister , a good daughter or neighbour. How would you be a good wife ?? Oh do you think it's a natural thing that happens immediately after nikkah?

Do you think that it's after nikkah that those good characters will start reflecting on you?
It starts now . Worry about the present , build yourself , pray to Allah to improve you , acquire knowledge , lots and lots of knowledge ... I know procrastination can be luring but try hard to manoeuvre , you can even ask Allah for strength to overcome your fears , laziness , dullness and procrastination . In Sha Allah it'll end up well .
Allah will send your "habibi" to you .

Now to our brothers!!! ☺😄
Ya Akhi Ya Akhi Ya Akhi
Sunnah is good ooo As in , you want 4wives yeah?
One should be light skinned👰
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The other dark skinned 👰
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The third caramel skinned 👰
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The fourth , white 👰
This life is good Alhamdulilah You want a good looking wife , that can cook , that has memorized the whole Quran , she must be this or that , her manners? Splendid , her modesty? Unbeatable . her voice? Thrilling . She should pray tahajjud all night , tidy up the
house , take care of the children , take care of you. Her character must be perfect , no flaws .... Flawless habibti shey ??? 😎 Ma Sha Allah

Please start with yourself , do you know how to do all what you expect your future zawj to be perfect at ? Do you deserve her? Your dreams are big bro ...enormous! Gigantic! So should your aims , aspirations and goals be .
Make yourself the most wanted akhi due to his Islamic values ✅ Morals✅ Intellectual acuity✅Spiritual connectivity ✅Just stick to Allah Azzawajal and he will give you the best
I know it's not easy to lower your gaze nowadays 😌 Because there are so many obstacles in ur path And even when u run 🏃🏽 Akhi these obstacles will run after u! Infact these hurdles will be in front of u !!💃🏽🏃

Run Akhi from fitnah... Run 💃🏽💃💃
🚣 But for Allah's sake if your legs fail , use a horse , a car , an airplane , a ship!
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Anything! Always beseech Allah for assistance .Patience is very rewarding , when the time is right... Ar Rahman will bless you with the best and I can not wait to eat nikkah rice In Sha Allah 😋😋😋😋

Allah loves a chaste man or woman, Verses from Al Quran :
           Who abstain from sex, (Surah Al-Muminun, 5 )
           Except with those joined to them in the marriage
            bond, or (the captives) whom their right hands possess,- for
           (in their case) they are free from blame,  (Surah AL-Muminun, 6)

        Say to the believing men that they should lower their gaze
        and guard their modesty: that will make for greater purity for
        them: And Allah is well acquainted with all that they do. (Surah An-Nur, 30 )

      And Mary the daughter of 'Imran, who guarded her chastity; and We breathed into (her             body) of Our spirit; and she testified to the truth of the words of her Lord and of His
      Revelations, and was one of the devout (servants). (Surah At-Tahrim, 12 )

Lastly ....  Q24:26
         Vile women are for vile men, and vile men for vile women. Good women are for  good             men, and good men for good women; such are innocent of that which people say: For             them is pardon and a bountiful provision. Keep praying,  Keep fasting, May Allah keepus         firm Ameen.