The Holy Prophet ﷺ Said:
1) Four things that make your body sick:
a) Excessive talking
b) Excessive sleeping
c) Excessive eating and
d) Excessive meeting other people
2) Four things that destroy the body:
a) Worrying
b) Sorrow (Sadness/Grief)
c) Hunger
d) Sleeping late in the night
3) Four things that take away the nur & happiness from your face:
a) Lying
b) Being disrespectful / impudent (insisting on something wrong knowingly)
c) Arguing without adequate knowledge & Information.
d) Excessive immorality (doing something wrong without fear).
4) Four things that increase the nur of face & its happiness:
a) Piety
b) Loyalty
c) Generosity (being kind)
d) To be helpful to others without he/she asking for that.
5) Four things that stop the Rizq (Sustenance) :
a) Sleeping in the morning (from Fajr to sunrise) b) Not Performing Namaz or Ir-regular in Prayers
c) Laziness / Idleness
d) Treachery / Dishonesty
6) Four things that bring / increase the Rizq:
a) Staying up in the night for prayers.
b) Excessive Repentance
c) Regular Charity
d) Zikr (Remembrance of Allah / God).
The Holy Prophet ﷺ Also said to communicate to others even if it's just one Verse (Ayaah) & this one verse will stand on the Day of Judgment for intercession..... Barkah jumaah to y'all
P:S= don't forget to read SURATUL KHAF, May Almighty Allah s.w.t reward us all abundantly (Ameen)
13/02/2016
DEAR SON: A MOTHER'S ADVICE TO HER SON BEFORE HIS WEDDING!
WHAT A MOTHER TOLD HER SON A DAY BEFORE HIS WEDDING
Mummy’s boy, you are now a man. Tomorrow you will have a new mother, a new cook and a new person to share all your secrets with. It will no longer be me but her. Love your new mum even more than you love me. Before you walk into her arms forever, let me give you some words to guide you.There was a day I was arguing with your father. We were screaming. Tempers were high. I was angry and He was angry. Then I called him an idiot! He was shocked. He looked at me asking how dare I call him that. I immediately started calling him idiot, fool, stupid, crazy. I called him all sort of name. Guess what he did? He didn’t raise his hands to hit me. He just walked away, banging the door as he went out.My Son, If your father had hit me and destroyed my eyes, how will you feel sitting here with me today? How will you regard him as your father? Would you have been proud of him or would you be blaming me for calling him names? Never hit your wife! No matter the provocation just walk away and things will be normal. Whenever she offends you, think of this story I just told you, it could have been your mum!Before I forget, after he left, I was filled with guilt. We slept on same bed that night and I went to him the next day. I pleaded with him, I did all I could to show am sorry and he forgave me. That day I cooked his favourite food, yes you know he loves Affang soup right? After that day, I never called him names, my respect for him was ten times stronger.
There is something very important you must always do, my son listen very carefully, defend your wife. When she is under pressure, stand by her. If your friends hates her, it is your duty to make them see her as a Queen. Your Uncle, I mean Uncle Udeme never liked me. But your father was always supportive until his perception changed.There was a day your Father was going to host the owner of his company and friends. They were three of them. That day I was in the kitchen cooking for them and your father went to buy drinks. When the table was set and food was served. Everyone started eating. Then I remembered I did not add salt in the food. I was embarrassed. Your father tasted the food and looked at me. He immediately turned to the guests. He told them that he instructed his wife last month not to add salt whenever she is cooking because of some problem with his body. He said it in a funny way and everyone laughed! The guests understood and he asked me to bring salt and everyone added according to their taste. He managed to eat the food without salt. After the guest left, he went on his knees and asked God to forgive him for lying.Your wife is like a baby, sometimes she don’t know what to say or do. Stand up and speak for her!
Now let me talk to you about sex. You see sex is a wonderful thing. Do not be surprised if your wife enjoy and need sex more than you do. There were days, I needed sex more than your father and there were days he needed it more than me but the important thing is to always try to satisfy the other when they need you. Don’t always think of your self.There was a time things were hard and I needed to do two jobs to support your father. One night I was so tired. When I got to bed he was in the mood. He try to make love to me and I didn’t refuse him. I was tired but I felt I needed to be there when he need me. When he tried undressing me, he saw my look and he stopped. He asked what was wrong and I said nothing. But he understand me better. He stopped and then started telling me stories until I fell asleep.My son, Sex is best enjoyed when the two parties are physically and mentally ready for it. Sometimes, read your wife and understand her.Make it a habit to go anywhere with your wife.
Beside your job, move around with her. If anyone invite you to his house and told you not to come with your wife then be very careful. Use wisdom.I know you love mummy… I know you tell me all your problems. But now things will be different.Let your wife be the first to know before me. Let her be the first to see before me.When you have problems with her don’t run to me immediately. Wait for a day to pass and then talk to her about it. Pray about it. Report her to nobody but talk issues out within yourself.Finally, don’t forget to come and visit me with your wife every month!I know you will have a happy home. You will always be mummy’s boy. God will bless ur home. Pls don't forget God, pray & seek His assistance always.
Mummy’s boy, you are now a man. Tomorrow you will have a new mother, a new cook and a new person to share all your secrets with. It will no longer be me but her. Love your new mum even more than you love me. Before you walk into her arms forever, let me give you some words to guide you.There was a day I was arguing with your father. We were screaming. Tempers were high. I was angry and He was angry. Then I called him an idiot! He was shocked. He looked at me asking how dare I call him that. I immediately started calling him idiot, fool, stupid, crazy. I called him all sort of name. Guess what he did? He didn’t raise his hands to hit me. He just walked away, banging the door as he went out.My Son, If your father had hit me and destroyed my eyes, how will you feel sitting here with me today? How will you regard him as your father? Would you have been proud of him or would you be blaming me for calling him names? Never hit your wife! No matter the provocation just walk away and things will be normal. Whenever she offends you, think of this story I just told you, it could have been your mum!Before I forget, after he left, I was filled with guilt. We slept on same bed that night and I went to him the next day. I pleaded with him, I did all I could to show am sorry and he forgave me. That day I cooked his favourite food, yes you know he loves Affang soup right? After that day, I never called him names, my respect for him was ten times stronger.
There is something very important you must always do, my son listen very carefully, defend your wife. When she is under pressure, stand by her. If your friends hates her, it is your duty to make them see her as a Queen. Your Uncle, I mean Uncle Udeme never liked me. But your father was always supportive until his perception changed.There was a day your Father was going to host the owner of his company and friends. They were three of them. That day I was in the kitchen cooking for them and your father went to buy drinks. When the table was set and food was served. Everyone started eating. Then I remembered I did not add salt in the food. I was embarrassed. Your father tasted the food and looked at me. He immediately turned to the guests. He told them that he instructed his wife last month not to add salt whenever she is cooking because of some problem with his body. He said it in a funny way and everyone laughed! The guests understood and he asked me to bring salt and everyone added according to their taste. He managed to eat the food without salt. After the guest left, he went on his knees and asked God to forgive him for lying.Your wife is like a baby, sometimes she don’t know what to say or do. Stand up and speak for her!
Now let me talk to you about sex. You see sex is a wonderful thing. Do not be surprised if your wife enjoy and need sex more than you do. There were days, I needed sex more than your father and there were days he needed it more than me but the important thing is to always try to satisfy the other when they need you. Don’t always think of your self.There was a time things were hard and I needed to do two jobs to support your father. One night I was so tired. When I got to bed he was in the mood. He try to make love to me and I didn’t refuse him. I was tired but I felt I needed to be there when he need me. When he tried undressing me, he saw my look and he stopped. He asked what was wrong and I said nothing. But he understand me better. He stopped and then started telling me stories until I fell asleep.My son, Sex is best enjoyed when the two parties are physically and mentally ready for it. Sometimes, read your wife and understand her.Make it a habit to go anywhere with your wife.
Beside your job, move around with her. If anyone invite you to his house and told you not to come with your wife then be very careful. Use wisdom.I know you love mummy… I know you tell me all your problems. But now things will be different.Let your wife be the first to know before me. Let her be the first to see before me.When you have problems with her don’t run to me immediately. Wait for a day to pass and then talk to her about it. Pray about it. Report her to nobody but talk issues out within yourself.Finally, don’t forget to come and visit me with your wife every month!I know you will have a happy home. You will always be mummy’s boy. God will bless ur home. Pls don't forget God, pray & seek His assistance always.
12/02/2016
POEM: I GOT FLOWERS TODAY!
I Got Flowers Today..... I got flowers today... It wasn't my birthday or any other special day.
We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said...because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today... It wasn't our anniversary or any other special day. Last night, he threw me into a wall and started to choke me. It seemed like a nightmare. I couldn't believe it was real. I woke up this morning sore and bruised all over. I know he must be sorry, Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today... It wasn't mother's day or any other special day. Last night, he beat me up again. And it was much worse than other times. If I leave him, what will I do? How will I take care of the kids? What about money? I'm afraid of him and scared to leave. But I know he must be sorry, Because he sent me flowers today.
I got flowers today... Lots of them...Today was very special. It was the day of my funeral. Last night he finally killed me. He beat me to death. If only I had gathered enough courage and strength to leave him, I would not have gotten flowers today......... Real man don't hit... Run From Domestic Violence!!
10/02/2016
FIVE FEARS OF A MUMIN: A must Read!!!
A Believer has 5 types of fear.
1. Fear that Allah may take his faith away from him
Many of us live our lives in such comfort that we are not concerned about losing our Iman. We think just because we are Muslim at this moment in time, we will stay like that, yet we forget the smallest action can nullify our Iman. To the extent, many of the Ulama a mentioned that a single thought which is Kufr can make one leave the fold of Islam.
2. Fear that the recording angels may write down something that may expose him on the Day of Resurrection
Some of us are so careful when committing evil deeds to make sure that our friends and family do not see us, but how foolish are we to think that the record keeping angels are not monitoring our every action and thought. Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala says,
‘So, by your Lord (O Muhammad sallallahu alaihi wa sallam), We shall certainly call all of them to account. For all that they used to do.’ [Quran 15:92-93]
3. Fear that the Shaytan may cause his deeds to become invalid
The true believer should always be on guard, to purify his speech and actions from the misguidance of Shaytan. We should remember that it is very easy to nullify our deeds by a simple intention and thus we must constantly make sure that all of our deeds are done with sincerity and with following the method (Sunnah) of the Prophet Muhammad (sallallahu alaihi wa sallam).
4. Fear that the Angel of Death may come to him without warning
When this unexpected guest arrives knocking at your door, you cannot turn him away, nor can you ask him to return at a later time, but rather the time is fixed and appointed. We must ensure that we are always doing the good deeds, so that maybe our last deed before we leave this dunya is in obedience to Him. Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala says,
Say: ‘The angel of death, who is set over you, will take your souls, then you shall be brought to your Lord.’ [Quran 32:11]
5. Fear that this world may tempt him and distract him from the Hereafter
One of our biggest temptations in this dunya. We become so busy in chasing this dunya, the cars, the money, the fame, the houses the businesses etc, but yet we forget that the one who chases the dunya never gets the akhirah, but the one who chases the akhirah will get the akhirah and the dunya.
May Allah Subhanahu wa ta’ala allow us to fear Him the way He deserves to be feared. Aameen...!
[These 5 points were mentioned by Uthman Ibn Affan (radiallahu anhu): Fara’id al-Kalam lil-Khulafa al-Kiram, page 278]
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